January 02, 2012
In the Family
by Justin E. H. Smith
One of the most controversial scenes in Shohei Imamura's 1966 film, The Pornographers, depicts three veteran directors from the Japanese porn industry in conversation, casually questioning the legitimacy of the prohibition on sex between fathers and daughters. To be willing to ask this question at all is meant to signal ultimate rottenness. Yet it is an important question, perhaps the most important question about the structure and nature of human society. It may be answered succinctly: a family is defined, even sustained in existence, by the rules governing who may have sex with whom in a household (or in a yurt, or tent, or cave); and families, in turn, are the building-blocks of society. The incest taboo is the fons et origo of social reality.
But this answer to the pornographers' question, an answer already familiar at the time of publication of Edward Westermarck's History of Human Marriage in 1891, has in turn spawned generations of new questions, some the plain product of academic inbreeding, some showing hopeful new mutations that promise to help along the project --a laudable one, in this author's view-- of tracing the social world back to its ground in nature.
Now it might seem odd to think of the incest taboo as a starting point for thinking naturalistically about human society. It was long supposed that it is precisely the prohibition on sex with close relatives that separates human beings from animals. The author of the 1891 History explicitly claimed that what we now call the 'Westermarck Effect', the "remarkable absence of erotic feelings" in children who grew up together, was something that did not extend beyond the bounds of the human species. Freud would see this 'remarkable absence' as a repressed presence, but he would nonetheless agree that it is something that only operates within the human species. Animals have often been distinguished from humans in that, so it has been thought, they will mount just about anything, including their sisters and mothers, whereas we humans exercise some restraint.
Thus as recently as 1960 the social anthropologist Marshall Sahlins felt comfortable repeating the myth of human origins as one in which we matured out of our primate wantonness and began regulating our sexuality: "human society overcame or subordinated such primate propensities as selfishness, indiscriminate sexuality, dominance and brute competition... In its early days it accomplished the greatest reform in history, the overthrow of the human primate nature" ("The Origin of Society," Scientific American 203, 1960: 76-87, p. 86). At around the same time, Kinji Imanishi was beginning to publish studies showing the "adumbrations of incest taboo and exogamy which have been institutionalized in human society" ("The Origin of the Human Family: A Primatological Approach," in Imanishi and Altmann (eds.), Japanese Monkeys: A Collection of Translations, Edmonton, 1965, 113-140, p. 120).
But for reasons that parallel those hashed out in the famous sociobiology debates of the late 1970s, most social anthropologists have been hesitant to see the primate evidence as at all relevant to our study of human kinship. Meyer Fortes, for example, looks at primate incest avoidance and sees only more monkey-business-as-usual: "The truth is," he writes, "that non-human primates lack any form of social organization or social structure in any sense comparable to that of humans. This is because the regularities that are observable in their modes of temporal and spatial association do not ensue from rules apprehended and conformed to" (Rules and the Emergence of Society, London, Royal Anthropological Institute, 1983, p. 22).
Here anthropology is stumbling into a deep problem about morality that has exercised the best philosophical minds. In his Treatise of Human Nature David Hume considered the supposed wantonness of animal sexuality, and concluded that if there is no moral transgression there, then there cannot be any moral transgression in tabooed human pairings either, since in order for human beings to have ever come to know they were doing something wrong, it must already have been wrong before they knew it. Thus anyone who says that morality binds humans but not animals to stick to a certain course of action "is evidently arguing in a circle" (A Treatise on Human Nature T 3.1.1.25).
Alongside tool use and language, avoidance of sex with close family members was long seen as one of the marks of human uniqueness. On all three counts, the old picture is breaking down. I take it that this shift speaks in favor of a return to Hume's take on morality: whatever humans ought or oughtn't be doing, the 'ought' here is not operating in any fundamentally different way than it does in the animal kingdom. Pace Fortes, patterns of behavior in animals do not have to be given a name in order to have something in common with what are called 'rules' among humans.
In fact, where the taboo breaks down among humans tends to be precisely in that social context where people believe themselves to be furthest from mere animality, superhuman, and therefore not subject to ordinary morality. Thus brother-sister incest is most common in aristocratic lineages: we have elegant love letters from at least one early modern Persian prince to his sister, wondering how, coming as they do from such a glorious family, it would ever be possible to love anyone outside of it. In the kapu legal system of precolonial Hawai'i, incestuous unions in the highest social class were regarded with immense respect. Seen from this perspective, we might conclude that incest avoidance is not what separates humans from animals, but rather what separates common humans from their aristocratic betters.
These considerations put us in a better position to answer the Japanese pornographers' question. Fathers may not have sex with daughters not because of any inherent 'turpitude' (Hume's word) in the relation, but simply because society must have some order or other (otherwise, in a variation of the anthropic principle, we would not be thinking and writing and publishing about such things), and it is ordered upwards from its basic units: its families. Order emerges in part from the way we schedule our holidays; the way we set the table and sit at it; the way we bow, kiss, or shake hands upon meeting. But perhaps most importantly it emerges from the way we regulate our sex lives, which is very nearly the same as to say from the way we think of family.
I suspect, in turn, that the myth echoed by Hume, Sahlins, and so many others, of the birth of human society out of the incest taboo, may be interpreted as a sort of microscale --or perhaps, literally, a microeconomic-- version of the myth of the origins of civil society out of a social contract. That is to say: it never actually happened, and whatever it is we are doing now has not just apparent but real affinities with the principles of organization in other groups of social mammals that dictate which may have sex with which. If we agree that what goes on at this microscale is not non-political (as most academics anyway have at least pretended to do since that slogan about the identity of the personal and the political emerged in the 1960s), and may even be an ideal laboratory for the study of the political, then it would seem to follow that incest, its avoidance, and the structuring force that this avoidance has on human social reality, all ought to be of tremendous interest to political theorists.
These were once of much greater interest than they are now, though even in their heyday this interest was principally restricted to continental Europe. The problem of incest, which once crossed several disciplines in both the human and natural sciences, today finds only a few dying echoes in the very most irrelevant branchings of literary studies. In what the practitioners of these same literary studies might call un double mouvement, incest continues to be of interest to empirically oriented primatologists (see, for example, Bernard Chapais's excellent Primeval Kinship: How Pair-bonding Gave Birth to Human Society, Harvard University Press, 2008, which inter alia provides a rich discussion of the work of Fortes, Imanishi, and others), yet the primatologists' work typically fails to capture the attention of political and social theorists.
The only reason I can find to explain the general absence of interest in this topic, in spite of its obvious connection to a host of fundamental issues in the human, natural, and social sciences, is simple, old-fashioned prudishness. And the result is that we continue to think about the basic units of our social reality in a glaringly superficial way. The pornographer, as far out on the margins of society as one can be, was asking a question that needs to be answered if society is to be understood.
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Wonderful essay, Justin -- thanks! I saw the Imamura film you open this discussion with, and to me, in that time, the question you cite seemed a musing on male perks - the whynotness of same. Someday our folkways may officially become a subset of Animal Studies -- a recognition of the human animal giving names to imperatives followed by many animals without their conceptualizing them.
Posted by: Elatia Harris | Jan 2, 2012 10:52:21 AM
Fathers may not have sex with daughters not because of any inherent 'turpitude' (Hume's word) in the relation, but simply because society must have some order or other (otherwise, in a variation of the anthropic principle, we would not be thinking and writing and publishing about such things), and it is ordered upwards from its basic units: its families.
So, I'm a little stuck on this paragraph. It strikes me that this is just a gesture towards an explanation for the taboo, rather than an explanation itself. Could you say a little more about why the ordering of society by family relations necessitates an incest taboo?
Posted by: Nick Smyth | Jan 2, 2012 12:05:47 PM
If we examine the inherently needy, driven, self-satisfying, often exploitative nature of sexual desire and contrast it with the requirements for parenting a child, the discussion transcends anything like mere trivial "taboos." The power imbalance alone nullifies any pretense of consensuality.
Posted by: Susan | Jan 2, 2012 1:16:24 PM
Fascinating essay. Evolutionary psychology has come a long way since the work in the 70's. I believe that human systems are an extension of mammalian and primate mating systems, which are certainly well studied as Biology. E.O. Wilson's view is that human social constructs are tied, as if with a rubber band, to the underlying evolutionary psychology. If Anthropology or Sociology come to differing conclusions, they face a body of empirical work that is well-established and substantial.
Posted by: Jack | Jan 2, 2012 2:21:43 PM
Once upon a time, which was 1958 or so, I recall reading a story in the Springfield Ohio newspaper discussing welfare costs or social problems in the country. I don't remember all the details, I was only 12 or so and it has been a while. But one thing stuck in my memory -- a mention that some undefined number of young women became pregnant out of wedlock each year as a consequence of "instruction" in sexual matters by their fathers.
No big deal, in other words. A little mishap during that inevitable adolescent rite of passage in which the birds-and-bees are alluded to. Certainly not the sort of thing which might involve police or social workers or anthropologists! Nothing with blame or consequences. Or so I perceived things then, when I was 12. I've no idea whether a typical American adult in 1958 would have read such an account with the same naivete. Somehow, I skep -- it was about this time that Grace Metalious shocked all the world with PEYTON PLACE, with a subplot of paternal rape and abortion.
At any rate, my serious observation half a century onward, is that no one should take the pronouncements of social scientists from that era on matters of sexuality or human nature without a great deal of salt. It was not a time when all matters were discussed with equal honesty.
Much like the present, of course.
Posted by: mike shupp | Jan 2, 2012 5:11:16 PM
Preliminary to this discussion, would it not be incumbent on us to determine covert incest first?
"Covert incest was defined in the 1980s as an emotionally abusive relationship between a parent (or stepparent) and child that does not involve incest or sexual intercourse, though it involves similar interpersonal dynamics as a relationship between sexual partners; it has also been described as a parent responding to a child's love with adult sexuality. Problems between parents often facilitate covert incest; as the parents distance themselves from each other both physically and emotionally, one parent may begin focusing on his/her child. The child becomes the surrogate partner and source of emotional support for the parent. The abusing parent may also be afraid or unable to meet their needs through a relationship with another adult. Alcoholism and other substance addictions are also associated with the occurrence of covert incest." (Wikipedia)
If no valid reason for covert incest can be demonstrated, then it is a further stretch to try to validate actual physical incest isn't it?
Posted by: Dredd | Jan 2, 2012 5:31:15 PM
This must be Incest advocacy week at 3QD. I suppose in a generation or so, Incest will be as acceptable as adultery, pre-marital sex, pedophilia, abortion and such anti-family trends.
Posted by: Raza | Jan 2, 2012 7:30:06 PM
Having been hatched from an egg in a lab in Wisconsin in the late 1950's, I cannot comment from actual human experience. But the form of the question and all the commentary seems to favor the male (once again). Why not mothers having sexual intimacy with sons? It's all about the gander again and as a goose I just resent this so much.
Dare we address "gay as a goose"? Why not fathers having sex with sons, or mothers with daughters? Or that famous human male sex event, the boy triplets who perform before the camera? ALL these question lie before us ripe for disquisition, n'est ce pas? (I fear I am headed for the fois gras end of life, here, devoted as I am to la langue Francaise.)
And somewhere buried, it seems to moi, is the question of age. When is a female offspring no longer a "daughter"? If the liaison occurs when the girlchild is an adult girl — say 30 human years— is this the same question? Seems as not so? So it reverts to, in the initial proposal, does it not, to just . . . power? So kudos I quack to Susan, above, and Dredd, also above.
As a gay goose, I often recall Oscar Wilde who quacked: "Everything in the world is about sex, except sex. And sex is about power." You little logicians out there will note the (not so difficult) little trick here.
Off to sit on my eggs where I will further ponder this dilemma. Humans, so . . . mammalian!
Posted by: Chris Gudmann | Jan 2, 2012 7:45:41 PM
"Why not mothers having sexual intimacy with sons?" Because it would kind of mess up their future relations -- as I well remember explaining to my young teenage son, who at one point had a real crush on me . . . I wasn't shocked at his proposals (and THAT surprised me, how normal the whole situation seemed) but I was absolutely certain that I wasn't just following a capricious taboo in refusing to indulge him; that responsible human mothers don't have sex with their sons.
Posted by: ROBINIA | Jan 3, 2012 3:08:44 AM
My comment on another 3QD incest related thread seems appropriate here as well. Also addresses to some degree, Nick Smyth's question:
Incest is =morally= wrong due to the harm done the family.
The most likely time for incest to occur is probably in adolescence, between children likely of different ages. We can probably take care of the morality involved here by simply noting that parents have an obligation and duty to care for the best welfare of their children. The parents of siblings discovered to be engaging in sex will almost certainly be horrified at the discovery. In correcting/eliminating the behavior, it's safe to say that the children will also likely be traumatized.
But consider the case of adolescent cousins who are found to be engaging in sex. The problems in this case will be extended not to one set of parents, but to two, one member of each set of parents being brother(s) and/or sister(s). The matter of who "forced" whom would likely be first and foremost, and without regard to whether any force was involved at all, much less whether the cousins liked it.
And we can take this on to adulthood. Brothers and sisters have sex. Brothers and sisters are "found out." How do Mom and Dad feel about this? How do other brothers/sisters feel? And once found out, how do the pair having sex feel about themselves? It is not unreasonable to imagine suicide of one (or more?) parties involved - the brother? The sister? What about the father, who is so deeply hurt at the wrong done his daughter? Or might the father go so far as to kill the son for his actions that are so clearly "against God?"
It doesn't have to be all that dramatic, of course. What if brother and sister profess undying love for one another, and though unable to legally marry, embark on cohabitation. Now, it's possible that Mom and Dad will say "Good for you two!" and life will be just dandy. Not a likely outcome, however. More likely would be something along the lines of "disown-ment." At the very least, some intensely hostile feelings, conversations, actions. What will Christmas dinners be like without them? Perhaps more interesting - what will Christmas dinners be like =with= them? Grandma and Grandpa, aunts and uncles, brothers and sisters, nieces and nephews, and even (God forbid?) the children of the brother and sister?
Surely no... Surely the children will be disowned, disavowed, disinherited, if not disemboweled. And so we turn to yet another area in which dilemmas might occur: the brother and sister grow tired of one another and break up. Perhaps the sister/daughter will want to move back in with Mom and Dad? Or the brother. Will that be possible? What would life in the family after that be like? Did the brother beat the sister? Was the sister caught cheating on the brother with every dern one of her cousins?
These are the reasons why incest is =morally= wrong, and pretty much automatically so. It just doesn't much matter if they liked it, or were drunk, etc (though those in the original essay making "drunk" excuses and blaming each other does suggest how they really feel about the matter).
An additional note, concerning Muslims who marry first cousins: be careful not to mix apples and oranges here... Theirs is a different culture. If such marriages work in their cultures, then it's pretty likely that such wouldn't be defined as incest under their laws, in their countries. Muslims in Israel or elsewhere =may= have the problem of their cultural practices being deemed illegal in their new host country, but that's a different matter. Or is it?
If the legal details at this webpage are correct, then the whole matter of whether first cousins are committing incest may be moot: http://www.cousincouples.com/?page=facts
In sum: genetics, repugnance and "it ain't natural" arguments have nothing to do with it. Incest is =morally= wrong first and foremost, for the harm it can do to the family or families, and for the harm those families may do the pair committing incest. (I haven't even mentioned the possibilities for great problems in the case of sex between parent and child.)
Posted by: Ashley | Jan 3, 2012 9:25:07 AM
There seems to be a basic misunderstanding in a number of the comments. The point of this brief promissory note of an essay is not to argue that incest is not morally wrong. The point is to argue that it is scientifically important to study the reasons for its prohibition, as well as the consequences of its prohibition for the organisation of society.
Posted by: Justin Smith | Jan 3, 2012 9:28:36 AM
A further comment, on inclusion of Hume's statement, "Thus anyone who says that morality binds humans but not animals to stick to a certain course of action "is evidently arguing in a circle."
I'd say it's more like this:
1. For each of several thousand years, do:
a. Perform action x.
b. Observe problems created by step a.
2. After those several thousand years, prohibit action x.
3. Describe this result as "morality."
To the extent animals may be capable of performing steps 1 and 2, I'm sure they do.
Posted by: Ashley | Jan 3, 2012 9:31:42 AM
Gonna disagree with your comment above, Justin. The reason for its prohibition is that it's morally wrong, as I've described above: morally wrong because damaging to the family. I see very little scientific importance to study something this obvious, nor the consequences of its prohibition (improved functioning of the family unit and society at large). I suppose it =could= make a serviceable subject for a masters thesis in sociology in the long term absence of one. Probably not too much more. Really, there's just very little there.
Posted by: Ashley | Jan 3, 2012 11:09:22 AM
Because of society's condemnation of it, we just don't know how widely prevalent the practice is.
Do the practitioners participate free of guilt, or lust overrides any qualms about the act when it is consensual? Is there tenderness;a sense of emotional bonding, or is it just a matter of 'getting off' like masturbation? Except for those who consider it as 'sinful', masturbation does provide benefits....relief from sexual tension without any hang-up.
Posted by: waqnis | Jan 3, 2012 1:21:41 PM
It would also be interesting to look at the treatment of incest in works of art and their relations to the societies they arose from. One of the few classics on the subject I can recall off the top of my head is John Ford's "Tis Pity She's a Whore," which treats the subject in a much less judgmental way than one might expect, and almost seems to prefigure the concept of "l'amour fou."
Posted by: IA | Jan 3, 2012 9:58:39 PM
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