July 23, 2011
Rest In Peace, Iftikhar Nasim
Update 07/25/11: My sister Azra Raza has now written a much longer obituary of Ifti here.
A close family friend and renowned Urdu poet, Iftikhar Nasim, died in the early hours this morning in his beloved city of Chicago. Here is an excerpt from a remembrance of him by his friend Kareem Khubchandani on Facebook:
I am privileged to have met, known, and spent time with Ifti Nasim. Ifti was a gifted artist, an inspired activist, a successful businessman, and a truly spectacular being. Ifti was born in Pakistan, and moved to the U.S. to pursue an education in law, but he found that art (specifically poetry) truly moved him. He committed his life to writing, and has performed and published poetry in English, Urdu and Punjabi all over the world. His book Narman has been taken up as a source of inspiration and strength by young people in Pakistan who have had trouble reconciling their sexual orientation and gender identities with what society expects of them. Ifti has been an activist not only through his poetry, but on the ground in Chicago: establishing Sangat for LGBTQ South Asians, rallying South Asians to protest in the wake of post-9/11 hate crimes, and educating South Asians about HIV risk and prevention. Between his art-making and activism, Ifti also worked selling Mercedes cars, and prided himself on his sales skills. Every step of the way, he looked fabulous! Fur, silk, leather, diamonds, gold, sequins, glitter, wigs, makeup, ruffles, and jewelry, he wore it all in style. This is what I will remember most about Ifti, that there was always pleasure to be had; no matter how dire the situation, no matter how painful the issue, there was always pleasure to be found. Ever time I asked Ifti, “How are you?” his answer was, without fail, “Honey, I’m just trying to survive in this big, bad, heterosexual world.” But the grace, flair, and humor with which he “survived” assured me that he was doing more than just getting by, he was finding happiness in the crevices of what truly is a difficult world for an outspoken, queer, immigrant, Muslim, South Asian.
Our community has lost an important figure, but we must continue to be inspired by his activism, his art, and his exuberance. I have lost a special friend, but I will attempt to sustain the difficult work that he has done, and widen the path he has laid for queer desis in Chicago.
Here is a video of an interview with Ifti in Urdu:
Ifti (as he was known to all his friends) was one of my sister Azra's best and closest friends and several of his books are dedicated to her. I know that today will be a very difficult day for her.
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Comments
abbas we are on our way there to be with her.
Posted by: zee | Jul 23, 2011 10:10:22 AM
Abbas,
I am sure Mr. Iftikhar Nasim was a great person and deserves rememberance.
However your coverage is too personal. Is 3quarks all about you and what is important to yourselves. Other than that I love 3quarks and you do a great job.
Posted by: Raza | Jul 23, 2011 10:37:51 AM
Raza, I find the personal slant of 3QD to be both its backbone--it is, after all, a personal selection of material throughout and the personal tastes, interests, judgments of the selectors are key to its success--and also one of the most endearing qualities of the experience. It's also honest and humane and I believe it helps to keep its readers honest and humane. A case in point is the timing of your comment, which is needlessly cruel. There are real human beings behind the screen.
Posted by: Zara | Jul 23, 2011 11:02:46 AM
Thank you for remembering Ifti, my mother told me fun stories and great joy it was to be around him. He always gave people his very positive best, and that was his life journey perhaps, among many others.......may he rests in peace.
Posted by: Shabbir | Jul 23, 2011 11:04:23 AM
ps.
posts like this one needs to be personal, that gives 3QD its personality, that tickles me every time. May be naive or for lack of my own, I surely appreciate 3QD writer's and reader's opinion.
Posted by: Shabbir | Jul 23, 2011 11:10:22 AM
It is the Raza family who have opened the world of Urdu poetry to me, and I imagine to many readers. Enough at least for me to feel this loss. What a dreadful thing. Laurie Anderson said, when her father died, "Another library burned down." Exactly. But the loss of a friend is measureless. My condolences to Azra and all who are bereaved on this day.
Posted by: Elatia Harris | Jul 23, 2011 1:12:32 PM
R.I.P.
Posted by: Ramzan | Jul 23, 2011 3:22:06 PM
I met Ifti through my sister and Azra Raza about 10 years ago. Whenever I ran into him, he was always so unbelievably warm and friendly and had a big hug to greet me, asking about my family. He was unbelievably talented, funny, interesting and smart. He will be truly missed. I'm at a loss. Rest in peace, Ifti.
Posted by: Samina Waggoner | Jul 23, 2011 4:20:11 PM
Zara,
I visit 3QD several times daily because I find the selections intellectually stimulating. That is the reason for it's success. I do not see it as a Family Blog or a Tabloid or some Facebook page like you do. I am least interested in their family or personal matters as I am in say Matt Drudge's or Arianna Huffington's.
I am sorry you find my comments cruel. Something you can lecture Abbas (and Richard Dawkins) about as well. There are real people who believe in an imaginary God for comfort just as we wish there is a place where we can rest in peace.
Posted by: Raza | Jul 23, 2011 7:30:40 PM
brave beautiful man and poet. rest in peace and paradise, Ifti Nasim, and know that you are loved.
Posted by: Farhana Majid | Jul 23, 2011 10:49:04 PM
Shabbir,
Please don't put yourself down. You are neither naive or lack personality. Ignore the personality cult of the site as it is just a ruse to get readership from stalkers, peeping toms and the chattering class.
Posted by: Raza | Jul 23, 2011 11:19:04 PM
Ifti was was a great funkar, he has written wonderful Ghazals, Afsana and regular coloumes.
For his work in urdu litrature he will be remembered for a long time
Posted by: Parvez Muzaffar | Jul 24, 2011 3:13:17 AM
I cannot believe iffiti died - I met him in Manchester-UK 3 years ago and found him a great man and great sprite- manage to talk to him on phone and found him a great person ----he will make the angles laugh ---
Posted by: Sohail Ahamd | Jul 24, 2011 3:23:43 AM
We are deeply saddened at the sudden loss of such a gifted person,"IFTIKHAR NASEEM, IFTI", poet , writer and broadcaster . Our prayers go out to IFTI's family, friends and fans at this difficult time.
۔انا للہ وانا الیہ راجعون۔
نصر ملک
کوپن ہیگن
www.urduhamasr.dk
Posted by: Nasar Malik | Jul 24, 2011 5:40:45 AM
Literature aur Art ka aik aisa burg jis ki chaown sab kay liye thee. Ajj apnee chaown samait gaya. Woh jab tak jiye sub ko sath lay kar chalay. Khuda unhain apni rehmat main rakhay(Ameen)!
I Love my Mamon!!
Posted by: Uzma Talat | Jul 24, 2011 11:45:26 AM
I am shocked and sad to hear our friend Ifti has passed. I was just chatting with him outside his apartment last week; making small talk and laughing with him. I really can't believe he has left us so suddenly. Rest In Peace, friend.
Posted by: Jason Z | Jul 25, 2011 12:14:47 AM
Mr. Raza, this post is dedicated to our friend Ifti Nasim, that we all miss, this post is not about you :) grow up my friend!!
Posted by: Shabbir | Jul 25, 2011 11:12:46 PM
Shabbir,
This post is not about me, that is exactly my point. Thank you for that, at least we are on the same page. However, I hope you are not mistaking me for those who think this site is about them. Raza is a very common name.
Posted by: Raza | Jul 26, 2011 5:50:52 AM
Raza, addressing you unkindly is not something I intend to do. But, to take issue with a family, at a time they are dealing with intense grief, for making use of their own site in a way that suits them -- well, you may be coming from some special pain of your own, or you would have sensed this was an off-key thing to do. As a person who can put her foot in it too, I want to tell you I hope you feel better soon. And, I will suggest that apologizing for choosing the death of a beloved friend as a pretext for expressing dissatisfaction with the 3QD experience is the thing for you to do now. Then it will all be okay, because you will have stepped up and done the manly thing. I believe that you are digging in because you don't see that backing down from your opinion and being sorry to have expressed it at a really awful time are not at all the same thing. Why not just 'fess up to having been emotionally tone-deaf for a spell? I'm sure everyone can relate.
Posted by: Elatia Harris | Jul 26, 2011 1:18:55 PM
Elatia,
3QD is one of my favorite sites for the articles it posts alongwith The Edge, Big Think and the like. I am always recommending it to my friends. However, on no other site of this type do you see who owns it or runs it, but somehow here they are always in your face adoring and congratulating each other.
As for Mr Nasim, may he rest in peace. I can do without knowing he told dirty jokes even to fifteen year olds (as one commentator fan mentioned). Those who remember him so need to do the apologizing.
Maybe in your mind 3QD is a Facebook page for friends and family rather than a public site.
Posted by: Raza | Jul 26, 2011 4:23:03 PM
My name is Brook. I was Iftikhar's nurse in the Intensive Care Unit during his last hospitalization. Words cannot express my sadness for this great man's passing. I truly wish I had the opportunity to meet this wonderful being. However, I have met many friends and relatives of Mr. Nasim and learned that he was a truly inspirational and motivational force in Chicago and abroad. Through speaking with friends and relatives of Mr. Nasim, I have gained a deep appreciation of his life and work. His poetry, art, and love for life will live forever within the hearts of his family, friends, and the lives he's touched. Mine being one of them. I wish his his family and friends peace and comfort. He was a great, great man.
Posted by: Brook | Jul 26, 2011 5:56:51 PM
Thanks for this lovely note, Brook.
And do keep in touch.
All best wishes,
Abbas
Posted by: S. Abbas Raza | Jul 26, 2011 6:07:09 PM
افتی کے لیے ایک شعر
افتی تمھاری شوخیاں گد گداتی ہیں ہمیں
خود تو سو گئے ہو تم یہ جگاتی ہیں ہمیں
Posted by: نصر ملک ۔ کوپن ہیگن ۔ ڈنمارک | Aug 9, 2011 4:47:50 PM
I me Ifti at Ludhiana (India) when he came to participate in a mushaiyera. I record his ghazal Kabhie Kehna Kabhie keh kar na aana yaad rehta hai... There on we kept in touch with each other till I heard of his untimely demise. The world of poetry has lost a good poet and we lost a good friend.
Rndhir Kanwal
Posted by: Randhir Kanwal | Oct 13, 2011 2:39:27 PM
my name is prem chopra ifti companion and room mate for 25 years after his death kiked out of the apartment 2 days later by khalid his brother in law have been homeless since july 25th i just want to know why did it happen my phone no is1-773-556-9840
Posted by: prem chopra s | Nov 1, 2011 5:00:29 AM
May allah guide him to jannah inshallah
Posted by: Zainab | Dec 30, 2011 5:55:54 PM
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